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And truly, this does not sound like a personal failing. I know that’s easier said than done - but the more you can see this as a weird thing that happened to you rather than as a personal failing, the better. Don’t let your internal narrative be, “This is humiliating, I smell and everyone knows but no one has told me, and agggghhh how will I face people again?” Instead, the internal narrative you want is more like, “Well, something on me stinks! I’m going to figure out what it is.” If it does turn out it’s been an ongoing problem, the best approach is to be as matter-of-fact about it as you can with yourself.
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That will help you figure out what you need to do to address it and, depending on the answer, it could also bring you some peace of mind. I’m sure the last thing you want to do is reopen this conversation with your colleague, but there might be real value in asking her to clarify whether it’s been a consistent issue the entire time, or whether it’s just been these three individual incidents. You might have smelled just fine the rest of the time! But in your co-worker’s head, those three different times could add up to a pattern worth addressing, without it having been a problem all those months in between.
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I’m at a loss about how to feel comfortable in my workplace again.īut what you’ve described here isn’t necessarily a year of smelling bad! It sounds like it could just be three separate incidents, all with understandable explanations: the smelly shirt from the trunk last January, the dryer disaster in June, and the new deodorant last week.
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I’ve just started using scented products on work days and unscented ones on my days off to try and give my itchy skin a break. Everyone has been asking me if I’m okay, since I’m not my usual jovial self. I could have taken steps to fix it, but I feel ashamed and really insecure that I was the source of work gossip for almost a year and now I am too uncomfortable to talk to anyone at work. I am embarrassed that all my co-workers were talking about me and, yet, no one said anything to me. I shower daily, wear deodorant, wash my sheets every week, and am generally a clean person. Which means that this has been an issue for almost a year, and no one said anything to me. (I rewashed the entire load when I got home.) The first occurrence was in January of last year. I started the dryer when I woke up and didn’t realize that the shirt smelled mildewy until I got to work and started moving around. There was a similar scenario with my other manager: The power briefly went out overnight while I was drying clothes. That was what my old department manager considered “talking to me about it.” We asked the same co-worker who gave me this recent talk and she agreed (she remembered the incident when I mentioned it). We went to a back office, and I took off the shirt and asked her to smell it and then me. My manager mentioned that I didn’t smell great and that because she was pregnant it was hard for her to be around me. I only had a shirt that I had tossed in my trunk a while ago. I remember the specific instances she was referring to and they were not framed as “this is an ongoing issue.” With my department manager, I was running late to work and made it there without part of my uniform. However, she mentioned that it was an ongoing issue and had gotten to the point that several co-workers had asked her about it (in her words, out of concern) and that our store manager and my previous department manager had mentioned it to me. Unscented products don’t always work well, so I was responsive to that.
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I’m incredibly sensitive to scented products (severity ranging from itchiness to full-on hives) and had just recently changed deodorants after the one I had been using was discontinued. I think I took the beginning of the conversation well. She was very kind and I could tell that it was incredibly hard for her. A week ago, a manager in another department, who is also a friend, sat me down in her office and talked to me because, apparently, I am the smelly co-worker.